1. You’re not broken (and you don’t need to be fixed)
We all take on certain ways of being for the purpose of coping with the world we grow up in. Some of these ways are beneficial, while others are damaging. But at the core of these behaviors is a need for protection, not brokenness. There is never going to be a time when you are “fixed” or fulfill that “ideal” version of yourself you have in your head. Living authentically involves continuing to grow, which is true for every human being, including Jesus (according to Luke 2:52).
2. Reality Is Always Better Than Comforting Myths
As crazy as it sounds, we actually find comfort in the myth that we are bad, defective, inadequate, helpless, and lacking. As Marianne Williamson wrote, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” However difficult it might be, it’s best to know the truth about ourselves and our lives, rather than be anesthetized by myths, whether they originated from your they family, culture or religion. Becoming Who You Are is about helping you find your truth.
3. You Can Figure It Out
We are often made to believe that we are not capable of guiding our own lives, or lack the inner resources to create the life we want. In one way or another, many people are in search of a “Higher Power” or external source to supply what we suppose we don’t naturally have themselves. Meanwhile, the Bible says, “We have everything we need for life and whole living.”
We are all unique people, and each of us experience life differently. What works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another. No one can figure this out for us, and there are no one-size-fits-all formulas. Our charge is to discover what inspires us about our lives, what does work for us – to listen, trust and follow our own internal navigation system. That is one of the most significant milestones of the journey – trusting ourselves.