A Religious Guide to Sabotaging Your Life


A Religious Guide to Sabotaging Your Life:

1. Begin with the premise that there is something hopelessly and incurably wrong with you.

2. Believe that your humanity is an affront to God, an obstacle to overcome, and an evil to repress or eradicate.

3. Pin your hopes on the afterlife, and don’t get too interested in the herelife.

4. Mistrust what you most deeply feel.

5. Give others the power and authority to determine what your beliefs, values, opinions, goals, desires, and views are.

6. Fear, reject, condemn, and close yourself off from anything that doesn’t fit with what you got from the above.

7. Focus on behavior modification, checklists, do’s and don’ts, obedience, and keeping the rules when it comes to living your life.

8. Give up or kill off all your needs and desires as a sign of spiritual maturity and call it “dying to self.”

9. Make sure everything and everyone in life is assigned a label or put into a box.

10. Label science, psychology, and art as “secular,” “carnal,” or “worldly,” and stay away from it.

11. Consider talk of love, unity, harmony, peace, beauty and oneness as childish, foolish, idealistic, or dangerous.

12. Draw a line between “sacred” and “secular” and divide up the world accordingly.

13. Divide humankind up into “us” and “them,” and stay away from “them” and judge “them” from a distance.

14. Lock up and throw away the key to your sexuality and get busy focusing on something that is holy.

15. Put forth a valiant effort to project and maintain an image that lines up with the expectations of your religious community, and hide the ways you don’t.

16. Don’t ask questions, rock the boat, challenge authority, think for yourself, or listen to that voice inside… just keep doing or believing even if it violates something deep inside of you.

– Jim Palmer, Notes from (Over) the Edge

(Photo by Darla Winn)

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  1. James Dare says:

    Jim I am a recovering alcoholic from janesville wi. I am currently at a recovery home in Harvard il. I spent 8 days in detox & 28 days at Nova, a rehab center in Oshkosh wi. I have been here at the freedom farm in Harvard since April 1. The freedom farm is a very special place for alcoholics that have struggled with relapse. There are 14 beds available for men who have struggled with relapse & recovery. We are situated on 7 beautiful acres close to Harvard northern il . It was born 16 years ago by a very successful gentleman, Paul from Rockford who saw a real need for recovering chronic alcoholics without the financial capability ability to a aftercare treatment facility. We have an extensive program that includes daily sessions in the Gorky relapse program, and 9 aa meetings per week at various nearby towns. In addition to Gorsky, we have 3/4 meetings daily on the recovery process with art rehab & psycho drama being important parts of that program. We have a group that is dedicated to a book that is assigned for reading . That is how I got to know j Palmer. Your book “divine nobodies” was assigned in may for review . This book has opened a spiritual door for me that I was struggling to see. I have 6 kids & have asked them to read your book . they were all raised in the methodist & baptist church, they are 18-35, all great kids and felt that your book could open some new doors for their relationship with god. it did for me I just wanted to reach out to you and tell you how grateful i am for being introduced to your” no nonsense relationship with god” it is,along with freedom farm making a difference in my life. Thank you James a. Dare

    Sent from my iPhone

    • jimpalmer1 says:

      Hey, James. I am so grateful for your encouragement. It means so much to me to know that I have contributed in some way to your journey. I have never heard of the Freedom Farm before, and I’m so glad I know about it now. What an awesome place, program, and community! I want to acknowledge you for your courage to confront your struggle with alcohol. A neighbor of mine recently had a leg amputated and may not live as a result of his alcoholism.Thank you for being a witness and example, letting others know that recovery is possible. Thanks for being my friend, and sharing this journey with me.

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